Firstly, the reason this article herein is relevant is because Catholic Christians are called to be charitable.

Secondly, secular society is obsessed by pronoun usages right now due to gender topics du jour.

So here is our view, namely it is actually more chartiable to use the pronoun, which truthfully identifies the person's biological gender.

Let us say that the person who posed this question was named \" John Doe \" . Calling him John because he wants to be called by that name is fine. It is true too. If I were to call him \" Mr John Doe \" , that is equally polite and gracious. That is what he is.

But, what if he preferred that I call him \" Miss John Doe \" , simply because he wants me to?

It may spare his feelings. It might make him more comfortable. Yet, to call him \" misses \" , is false.

This is because his preference does not confer reality. Reality and Truth are independent of personal preferences. So too is the Beauty of Creation when compared to the inventions and machinations of man. They are objective and preferences are subjective. John is conflating the two. The same would be the case for referring to a male as female, a female as a male, and a male or female as neither.

John, like Jesus, is seemingly reaching out to his neighbor. Unlike Jesus arguably, he is accommodating them. Jesus is loving, reaches out to all but he did not when on earth and does not now accommodate with falsehoods, but rather came to \" testifying to the [T]ruth \" . In fact, Jesus is the \" Way, Truth and the Life \" . He loved us to His death, but did not compromise the Truth. Rather he spoke to it. He did not come to \" change one letter of the Law \" .

In terms of accommodation, Jesus probably knew the Pharisees, who were pretending to be holy and playing word games, would not like to be called vipers and hypocrites. Yet, He said they were. They probably were hurt when he said \" why are you trying to trip me. \" Yet, to spare their feelings, he did not change the reality to which He testified. He spoke the Truth, because it was for their sake and the call to conversion.

I am sure the woman at the well would have preferred Jesus not know nor mention her many husbands. Yet, he was calling her none the less and loving her enough to speak the Truth.